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Stuck In A Circle
Today’s video will help you to get to know our first ASMR Affiliate on a more intimate level. Her content is very fitting for this blog, and we couldn’t be more proud to be working with LadyCocoaa ASMR.
Your mind can be your enemy, and it’s strange to say, but I believe that “tricking the mind” is almost a necessity for individuals who wish to achieve fast progress; perhaps any progress. Naturally the mind wants what feels good, and it wants what is easy. My mind is especially weak to alcohol and opiates, which was one of the main inspirations for starting this blog. I write about ASMR because I love ASMR and I want to help expose the world to it, but I write every single day so that individuals who are amidst addiction recovery have a consistent publication they can attach themselves to and rely upon. I’m not perfect, but I am sober from alcohol and hard drugs.
As Cocoaa states in the video, one can get stuck in a circle, or a cycle. I’ve been stuck, and I will be stuck again someday. Life is just the circles we occupy, but it’s the lines that connect those circles upon which we will be judged.
Alcoholism and hardcore addiction encircled my life for twelve years, from 14 years old to 26 years old. I was in the same damn circle that whole time! Sometimes I would get the illusion of leaving the circle, but I was simply moving around inside of it. Do you move around inside your circle? It’s honestly almost impossible to tell that you are stuck in a circle until you leave the circle. Only then does everything become clear as day.
To demonstrate moving around inside of a circle, I will tell you the story of a man named Rock.
Rock was a guest at the hostel I worked at, and we smoked weed together everyday. Rock always started drinking before noon, and he would still be drinking when the parties began at night. You would think that a lawyer in their 50’s or 60’s would be pretty well put together; a well managed person. Not Rock. Although, I didn’t fully understand that until he started sleeping in my car.
Where Rock came from and where he went to can’t be proven, even if he did tell me these things. A man who lives in a hostel for 6 weeks and then ends up sleeping in one of the employees cars, is a man who has a long-term problem.
His job seemed to be very boring, and perhaps there was less for him as time went on [he was there for a job, but maybe he didn’t want to leave when it was done?]. Instead of making plans for venturing back to his home, or making an effort to cut back on his consumption’s as to make his money stretch, Rock just let things fall to pieces. He was still working while he lived in my car, and he actually gave me about $100 in exchange for letting him sleep there for a week. He also purchased his own train ticket home. I would not label him as a happy person, even if he was often content.
When I met Rock, I think he was trying to leave a circle he had been stuck in for a long time. Sometime during that 6 weeks of living at the hostel, Rock probably felt like he was leaving that circle; leaving his old way of life for a new and better way of life; maybe a more exciting way of life. Since he ended up living in my car and then taking a train back home with barely any money in his pocket, we must conclude that Rock never left his circle. He just moved around inside of it. Rock is an alcoholic, and he never left his alcoholism, because he brought it with him. He brought it into the hostel, and he brought it into my car. However, I bet that at some point during that 6 weeks, Rock really felt like he was making some progress. The problem was that he wasn’t working to better himself in the right ways.
If you are reading this blog, don’t worry, you are well on the road to not ending up like Rock. He’s still my friend, and if I saw the man again I’d shake his hand and hope to hear him well. However, he is still an example of what not to become, and he will openly admit that. Rock will teach you everything he knows, but he will never tell you to live like him. I respect an individual that doesn’t try to drag me into their circle, even if they can’t themselves leave it.
Rock is a good man who found a good balance in life. Sure he was living in a car for a week, but he was out experiencing life!
LadyCocoaa ASMR talks about finding balance, and I agree that everyone can find it. If you judge yourself based on other people, you are not doing yourself justice. Judge your life today, upon if it’s better or worse than yesterday. Only then can you start to make progress. Once you start to make progress, you can then begin to trick your mind. Feeling sad? Play music and trick your mind into being happy. Feeling unmotivated? Eat something healthy and energizing, and tell yourself that that food will make you feel motivated.
We will talk more on tricking the mind another day.
We will also be talking much more about LadyCocoaa ASMR.
I look forward to seeing you tomorrow.
x. Spark Twain
Everyday Sobriety Advice
I am a recovered alcoholic/drug addict, but I am not a qualified addiction counselor. To help other alcoholics/addicts achieve sobriety, I have created the mantra’s below. Although I call them “steps,” I believe that all four mantra’s should be recited in concurrence.
When the urge to drink alcohol or use drugs comes upon you, I suggest reciting these four steps, and then implementing an activity to “kill time” until your urge to use drugs/alcohol is less intense. I suggest you use ASMR videos to “kill time”
Good luck, My Friend
Below are the steps of admittance required for using The ASMR.Community Sobriety Program [ACSP] successfully.
Step 1: “Sobriety is a choice, and it is up to me to make the right choice.”
Step 2: “Not everybody will be able to achieve sobriety, but that knowledge does not prevent my success regarding sobriety.”
Step 3: “The urge to imbibe (substances that I know will prevent my success) is finite. Sometimes the urge will exist, sometimes the urge will not exist.”
Step 4: “Sobriety is not the same for everyone. Success is.”
I believe the steps I listed above are a complete, non-exclusionary list of all mental admissions needed to achieve your goals regarding sobriety.
Everybody’s definition of sobriety is different, but everybody’s definition of success is the same.
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If you would like to learn more, make sure to read our Philosophy Of Addiction Recovery 1.
For more daily support, check out Sober James on YouTube. He does a livestream every night at 21:00 Eastern Standard Time, and his live streams are a great place to receive support, gain motivation, and listen to encouragement in regard to addiction recovery. His program is based on the Twelve Steps.
SMART Recovery is another great program for individuals who are ready to tackle their addictions.
If you are seeking spiritual guidance, I highly encourage you to check out Tarot Reader ASMR. Her name is Amalia, and she is a kind-hearted individual with a skill for bringing us closer to ourselves.
Don’t underestimate the power of Yoga! Specifically Yoga With Adriene. My shoulder is broken, and so you can do some Yoga for me too. I really wish I could…
If you are looking or more information about ASMR, I’ve found the best place to learn about the subject is ASMR University. Their information is accurate [to the best of my knowledge], and plentiful. I mostly work with the application of ASMR, but there is a whole lot more to ASMR than using it to gain sobriety or fall asleep, including the history and the science of it.
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