using death as the motivator for sobriety

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Using Death As The Motivator For Sobriety

It’s no secret that addiction recovery is tough. You should believe people when they tell you that, but still, there is no way you can prepare. It’s like your first broken heart, and there is nothing else I can compare it to. And much like getting your heart broken, it gets easier the more times it happens. If you quit your drug of choice first try, you are a rare breed. Most fail again and again before they get it right. It took me 7 years to quit drinking. 7 years I will never get back. Those were the years I was supposed to be exploring the world and the people who inhabit it. Those were the years I was supposed to…drink alcohol, I guess. You only get one chance to tell your story of life, and that portion of mine has already been told.

There is less satisfaction in the drawn out process. Young love is the best kind. Young addiction is the worst kind. If you are addicted to drugs, you need to quit or you will never be able to truly love yourself. That’s a catch 22, really, because when I was drinking all the time, I totally thought I loved myself. As it turns out, I only wanted to love myself. But if you love yourself, you need to think about how you will view your life from your deathbed, and start making some changes. Old memories are the best kind. Old regrets are the worst kind. Pick your poison.

Have you considered death? I don’t mean as an option, I mean…have you considered that death is coming for you? There are only 365.25 days in the year…and every year you live life upon the day of your death, and after you are gone it will be one of the most important dates having to do with your existence. What is it to you? Is the day of your death important? If you knew what day you were going to die, but not what year, how would you treat said day? Would you stay in your house to avoid death? Or, would you walk around the streets open-armed, and ready to embrace an old friend? Or! Would you live that day just like any other day? I hate to say it, but I would be the superstitious one; I would try to avoid death on that day. I’d probably feel weird about it; “Hi is Steve there? Yes I’ll hold…Hi Steve. Sooooo I can’t come into work today because, well, if I die today, I at least want to die in the comfort of my own home.”

That’s a phone call I made to the autoparts store once, when I called-in sick for work. I’m joking. Steve did deserve someone better then me though…and that’s saying something, because I was one of the best employees! Until…I wasn’t. I feel bad about letting Steve down, but it was just a single day of stress in his life caused by me. Who I should really feel bad about letting down, is myself. The feelings I have for myself however…they are not condolences. I do not feel bad for the younger version of myself, and instead I am angry with him! You fool! Why did you cast away your beautiful life with such misguided swings of the hammer? That’s how I feel. But these days I’m like Yo! Your body is a temple, and you are the God it was made for. That might be a Savannah Brown quote, I’m not sure, but I know forsure that I saw it on her Instagram. I have a small crush on that girl. I’m attracted to writers, however I bet if I actually tried falling in love with one, I would no long be attracted to writers. I’d always be worried she had a bigger pen than me, you know? And that’s saying something, because I’m pretty confident in the size of my pen. Well shit Spark, all you need is a joke about white ink and your…oh you asshole, you made me do it!

I sure did.

I’m not the crazy one, you’re the crazy one.

This is what sobriety looks like. It looks like selfless and selfish love all at the same time. It looks like a ballet dancer practicing in an open field, and then they ask you to dance. It looks like Life, as painted by Death. How do you want the story of your life to be? Because death is the only thing you are guaranteed in life. Your death is not some far off event either. It’s a real thing that will really happen to you, and when that time comes, at the end of your life, you will think. What will you think? Will you be happy about the choices you have made? The drugs you’ve done? The people you’ve loved? The people you’ve hated? Put yourself in the hot seat, at the end of your life, and let your death paint your life.

x Chris Buckley

p.s. The saturation on today’s featured video is a little bit high, but it’s still a good video.

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Everyday Sobriety Advice

I am a recovered alcoholic/drug addict, but I am not a qualified addiction counselor. To help other alcoholics/addicts achieve sobriety, I have created the mantra’s below. Although I call them “steps,” I believe that all four mantra’s should be recited in concurrence.

When the urge to drink alcohol or use drugs comes upon you, I suggest reciting these four steps, and then implementing an activity to “kill time” until your urge to use drugs/alcohol is less intense. I suggest you use ASMR videos to “kill time”

Good luck, My Friend

Below are the steps of admittance required for using The ASMR.Community Sobriety Program [ACSP] successfully.

Step 1: “Sobriety is a choice, and it is up to me to make the right choice.”

Step 2: “Not everybody will be able to achieve sobriety, but that knowledge does not prevent my success regarding sobriety.”

Step 3: “The urge to imbibe (substances that I know will prevent my success) is finite. Sometimes the urge will exist, sometimes the urge will not exist.”

Step 4: “Sobriety is not the same for everyone. Success is.”

I believe the steps I listed above are a complete, non-exclusionary list of all mental admissions needed to achieve your goals regarding sobriety.


Everybody’s definition of sobriety is different, but everybody’s definition of success is the same.

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If you would like to learn more, make sure to read our Philosophy Of Addiction Recovery 1.

For more daily support, check out Sober James on YouTube. He does a livestream every night at 21:00 Eastern Standard Time, and his live streams are a great place to receive support, gain motivation, and listen to encouragement in regard to addiction recovery. His program is based on the Twelve Steps.

SMART Recovery is another great program for individuals who are ready to tackle their addictions.

If you are seeking spiritual guidance, I highly encourage you to check out Tarot Reader ASMR. Her name is Amalia, and she is a kind-hearted individual with a skill for bringing us closer to ourselves.

Don’t underestimate the power of Yoga! Try Yoga With Adriene.

If you are looking or more information about ASMR, I’ve found the best place to learn about the subject is ASMR University. Their information is accurate [to the best of my knowledge], and plentiful. I mostly work with the application of ASMR, but there is a whole lot more to ASMR than using it to gain sobriety or fall asleep, including the history and the science of it.

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